Monday, September 19, 2016

4 Steps to Becoming a Better Person

"One of the most challenging and fulfilling things you can do is to better yourself. Everyone wants to be a better person, but not many people know how to become one.... it’s an uphill battle to fight against the habits, circumstances, and genetics that have shaped who you are. It can take a lot of patience, hard work, and understanding people who want to support your growth."

#1 Understand Yourself- 
"Learn about yourself and discover your negative qualities. It may sound easy, but it can be difficult to see yourself in an honest light. Sometimes we bury away traits we don’t see as strengths. Start by thinking about the people that annoy you. Have you ever asked yourself why they annoy you? The reason you dislike certain people is because you may have a lot in common — you both have similar negative qualities...."

#2 Step Back and Watch-
"Once you’ve discovered your faults, it’s time to acknowledge them. Maybe you always have to be right or are easy to anger. Whatever it is, a big step is realizing these faults, admitting them verbally, and acknowledging them in your daily life. You must be willing to make a change. Now that you’re aware of your issues, watch for these negative qualities as they come out in your life. Observe yourself without judgment and be gentle with yourself during this process of awareness. Remember you are not your emotions or your faults."
#3 Learn What Triggers You-  "When you are aware of your weaknesses and have detached yourself from them, it is time to find out what instigates them. What situations lead to these qualities coming out? What people bring this out in you? Once you’ve discovered your triggers you will have a better understanding of what situations and environments lead you to these bad behaviors."
#4 Regain Control-  "Once you’ve found your triggers, it’s time to make a game plan to control them. If you’re easy to anger at work, then you’ve developed a habit of venting your frustration to your employees or colleagues. Make a contingency plan to avoid this happening. Maybe go to the gym before work to get rid of steam or take a few moments in your office before you have to interact with a colleague. You’ll need to develop a plan to counteract or control these bad qualities and habits. These traits may always be something you struggle with, so make a plan to control them so they don’t take over your life."
My Comment: Be aware of your inner landscape (physical, emotional, mental thoughts and memories ( conscious, plus search for unconscious). Observe all these in action/interaction. Hold this "steady in the light". Sustained awareness without condemning or condoning will lead to transformation.
And remember, our karma is a feedback loop that keeps bringing us back repeatedly to the same points of tension in our life(s) because we still have yet to learn from what we have not earned. Karma is the gift that keeps on giving!